Emily is a long-time writer of m/m romance and is visiting today with an interview with Ashley from her upcoming release with Changeling Press, Heartwood 3: Yew and Thorn
Emily Carrington: Hi, Ashley.
A: Actually, it’s Ash, ma’am. That’s my nickname but I want everyone to know I’m using it instead of my legal name. At least until I have to switch back for something like getting a job.
EC: Okay, Ash. Tell me about your nickname.
A: Aidan accidentally gave it to me, but I liked it so much that I claimed it for my own. It seems to fit with my being nonbinary.
EC: Tell us about Aidan.
A: He and Mike are my foster parents. I’m thirteen and they’ve been taking care of me for about eight months now. It’s just turned January 1st here in Pennsylvania. Anyway, Mike and Aidan are great. They’re gay and Aidan knows almost everything about the LGBTQ community. [she giggles] Although he calls it QUILTBAG and hopes everyone will start using this more inclusive, if silly sounding term.
EC: What does it stand for?
A: Queer, Undecided, Intersex, Lesbian, Transgender, Bisexual, Asexual, and Gay.
EC: Neat. It does sound a little funny though. Do you mind if I ask about your white cane?
A: Sure. I’m visually impaired. Not like Aidan, who’s totally blind and can’t see anything, but I don’t’ see much. No movement, few colors, and basically straight ahead of me. I can read 72 point font but that’s about six times bigger than everyone else reads, so I read braille instead.
EC: I’d like to go back to you mentioning that you’re nonbinary. How and when did you realize this?
A: Over the summer with Aidan and Mike. I didn’t feel like a girl or a guy-thing, and I don’t have discomfort with my body being a girl’s, but I like to wear gender neutral clothing. Like T-shirts and jeans that aren’t specifically cut for a girl. If I really start enjoying the new, UU, church Mike and Aidan and I are going to, I might ask to wear a suit or something. But for now, I like it that Aidan says they’ll take me as I am.
EC: Thank you for visiting with us, Ash. Is there anything you’d like to share that I haven’t asked?
A: You didn’t ask why I had to be thirteen before someone would even talk about adopting me.
EC: Mike and Aidan are planning to adopt you?
A: If they can get all the right permissions.
EC: Okay, I’m asking. Why?
A: Aidan says it’s because fate wanted me to be with them. Mike says it’s God. But I think it’s because I just didn’t fit with the other families. I was too scared with them to be myself. Now I can be, and Mike, Aidan, and their adopted daughter, Candice, love me just as I am.
Today I’m at Valerie Ullmer’s blog, talking about Jones and her trip to England and her thoughts on wearing petticoats!